
Friday, September 11, 2009
FACTS ON: Couples fight most frequently about not spending enough time with each other
Couples fight most frequently about not spending enough time with each other.
Many find that they bring stress home. Others are caught in a vicious circle: To maintain a certain standard of living they have to work/school long hours, thus having less time at home.
People would rather stay at work - where they are respected and recognised - than go home to a spouse who nags for not spending time at home.
Tips to resolve the issues:
Set a time to talk about what's working in your relationship and what's not.
This creates a safer space in which both parties can feel respected and listened to. Don't complain about what your spouse is doing wrong.
That often leaves them-feeling attacked, and solves nothing.
Identify what you need from your spouse. Some people may need physical touch or gifts to feel connected; others may want more time together.
Alternatively, set up time during the work/school day to call each other. Whatever makes you tick, tell your spouse.
Sometimes that can take trIal and error, so be patient.
Relaxing and restoring yourself will have you actually conversing with your spouse, instead of dumping your complaints about your day on him or her.
♥ XOXO,LISA!
6:07 PM